Freedom has been my one of my deepest core values throughout life.
(Even had a bracelet customized!)
For me, the expressions of true self, love, fulfillment and joy are intimately intertwined.
Yet, in all the elements mentioned here, we tend to give our power over to others.
The Hidden Chains of Freedom
There are endless reasons why we believe we are not free.
Responsibilities, jobs, obligations, even love – each of them seems to demand a part of us, shaping our lives in ways that can feel limiting.
We easily fall into the belief that freedom is something we must earn or wait for, a destination we will reach when certain conditions are met.
When the workload lightens.
When the bank account fills.
When the people around us change.
This morning, I caught myself in this illusion once again. (Yes, ILLUSION!)
Four months ago, due to some life events, I moved back in with my family.
Since age 16, I hadn’t had so much time spent under the same roof with my family. It felt unfamiliar and yet deeply familiar at the same time.
Family, like all relationships, carries expectations – spoken and unspoken, past and present and future.
Some of those expectations had once shaped the emotional scars I carried.
Growing up, certain dynamics triggered anger, anxiety, and tension within me.
Now, as an adult, even though I knew intellectually that things had changed, my body still remembered.
Sometimes, when my siblings were around, I anticipated discomfort before anything even happened.
I found myself bracing for words that were never spoken, for reactions that no longer existed. Or the mere presence of my parents made me feel like I had to adjust myself, fit into an old version of me I thought they expected.
It was exhausting.
This morning, I noticed my thoughts drifting –
if only my father spoke differently, I would feel more at ease.
If only my sister’s schedule aligned with mine, I wouldn’t feel so tense.
If only, if only.
And that’s when I saw it clearly:
I was handing over my freedom to the conditions around me, waiting for others to change so that I could feel how I wanted to feel.
The Subtle Trap of Victimhood
When we believe our emotions and experiences are shaped by the actions of others and the settings of environment,
we unknowingly live into the victimhood.
A state of powerlessness, desperation and confinement.
We convince ourselves that our peace depends on external circumstances, and in doing so, we hand over our self-power.
I paused.
I acknowledged my thoughts.
I saw the loop I had fallen into.
There and then, I made a choice. (all over again)
I chose the truth that I have the power to be free, here and now.
My father’s words do not have to create negativity within me unless I allow them to.
My sister’s habits do not need to dictate my inner state.
None of these external factors truly have control over my freedom – unless I give it to them.
Releasing Old Stories
We carry stories within us – narratives about who we are, what relationships mean, what roles we must play.
Yet, at any moment, we can rewrite those stories.
We can choose to release the weight of past triggers and create a new relationship with the present.
Here is how, through honest self-inquiry –
“Why am I still reacting to things that no longer exist?”
“Why do I allow these energies to enter me?”
More importantly, “What would happen if I simply chose not to?”
Often, we don’t need all the answers.
The act of questioning itself begins to shift something within us.
Our awareness starts expanding and reorganizing. With that, our energy changes.
And when we change, the world around us follows.
I have seen this in my own life, time and time again.
When I stop trying to force others to change, when I shift my own internal state, the dynamics of my relationships shift naturally.
There is no need for arguments or persuasion – energy speaks louder than words.
The Truth of Freedom
We were born free.
Freedom is not something to seek, but something to remember.
It is our natural state, waiting for us to return to it.
Here is my invitation to you –
🩷 Where in your life have you been waiting for something outside of you to change so that you can feel free?
🩷 What stories have you been carrying that no longer serve you?
🩷 What would happen if you choose, in this very moment, to reclaim the freedom that has always been within you?
Freedom is not in the future.
It is now.
IT IS YOU.
Be loved and be love.
Here is my freedom bracelet. 🩷
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Hi, I am Shuang-Min.
