I was in a somewhat funny conversation – brief, funny and compelled me to call out to you deeply.
A friend of a client asked her my contact.
I was added into a group and introduced.
She was an expat, living in one of the richest, most dynamic cities in the world.
The only piece of background information I knew was she recently attempted suicide.
I asked this lady why she would like to be in contact and how may I help her.
“I don’t have any problem at the moment.” This is her opening line.
“That’s great. Is there anything you would like to know for the moment?”
Then she went on telling me why she didn’t have any problems in her life right now.
(I didn’t get into that piece of background info since I didn’t feel she was ready to open up for a conversation.)
Why do I feel compelled to write this letter to you?
STOP using the binary view of having problems and not having problems to frame your world!
And I am going to say something radical here,
Attempting suicide is not a problem.
It’s a choice – may not be the most plausible one in the societal judgment but a choice nonetheless.
Feeling stuck is not a problem.
Feeling sad and useless is not a problem.
Feeling ugly and fat is not a problem.
Feeling failing your children and family is not a problem.
Feeling disappointed and heart-broken is not a problem.
YOU ARE NOT A PROBLEM.
Anything and everything you are going through right now,
Maybe you see yourself fit right into the description above.
Maybe you are currently journey through a joyous season of getting raise, signing a new contract you always want, sending off your child to college, about to attending your child’s or grandchild’s wedding, welcoming a new born…
None of it is a problem or a none-problem.
It is simply a state you’ve created and co-created with everything within and without you.
And as we talk about “beyond point” in the last letter,
It’s always up to us to choice what’s the beyond point looks like, feels like, tastes like, sounds like.
We can choose it to be the same as of now.
We can choose it to be different from now.
Or, an autopilot choice will be made, rinse and repeat.
That is ALL.
I couldn’t summarize my emotions at that moment during that brief conversation.
I was exhausted.
The urge and desire to explain that any coaches are not a problem solver but a co-creator with the clients to reach the beyond point.
I was self-reflective.
Here I am, attracting another person see life in the problem-lens. What’s inside me vibrate at this frequency?
I was empathetic.
I knew too well the life where all my efforts went into making “problems” go away. Exhausting and so out of sync with love.
Sure, you can say I am just playing with words.
The thing is I love playing with words.
I coach my clients to play with their words so that they can tune in the frequency that
Calibrates their being into magnet;
Serves the process of creating successes better
Lays more loving foundation for relationships;
Radiate the spirit of freedom they want to live in.
Be impeccable with your words.
– The Four Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz
The first layer is the integrity – only say what we absolutely mean and are committed to.
In the energy realm, I see it as a caution and reminder of always choosing the vibration I want to align myself with through my words.
No matter how your life feels, look, tastes, smells right now,
It’s more than a problem or a none problem.
Your life means so much more, has so much more than this simplified definition.
OK, you have a hard time to get out of this word “problem” at the moment.
For now,
Remember,
YOU have NO problem.
And YOU are certainly NOT the problem.
Then, what’s it gonna be for you?
I love you and I love your life for you from the bottom of my heart.
And if your heart had even a flicker reading this, HIT reply and send a quiet note.
No need to explain. Just… I’m listening.
Be love and be loved,
Shuang-Min
[Disclaimer]
While I speak to the experience of feeling stuck or facing difficult emotions, I want to acknowledge the seriousness of mental health challenges. If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide or extreme emotional distress, please seek professional help. You are never alone, and support is available.
Hi, I am Shuang-Min, a lifestyle coach and intuitive healer.
🌿🌿 P.S. 🌿🌿
You weren’t made to live in problem-solving mode.
You were made to create. To expand. To feel alive.
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